Not self presents us with a dilemma. Before you start on the Buddhist path, you likely never thought of yourself as being anyone but who you are.

Then these pesky Buddhist teachers start to tell you that your self is a misrecognition, and one that does more harm than good in the bargain. As your meditation practice develops, you begin to notice the luminous emptiness of infinite consciousness, which is appealingly vast, beautiful, and peaceful.

So what do you do with your sense of self? Ajahn Sumedho says we should die before we die. What he means is that we can allow our…